I’m one of those annoying (haha) people that has made the conscious decision to me more positive. I try to wake up with a positive mindset every day. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I share that mindset there too!
But every once in a while, I come across someone thats just negative. Their glass is always half empty and it doesn’t matter what you do or say, you can’t make them look more positively at things. That sucks, for you but also for them, but when you are in a situation where you have to deal with this person every day (at work for example) their negativity can end up affecting you.
Here’s what has helped me in the past:
Resist the urge to judge them
Judging negative people is so easy, but you’re better off not to. She’s a bitch. He’s a jerk. He’s ungrateful for what he has. They don’t deserve to be judged, because you don’t know their story. And even if it seems unlikely that they will wake up one day and think differently, we have to remember that the possibility is there.
Instead, try approaching them with the positive mindset you wish they had and expect the best in them. You never know what might happen.
Stay detached from their negativity
Smile and don’t say anything. This tactic usually works the best for me when I’m in a more professional environment, or when I can’t be bothered to say anything. I force myself to be completely detached from their negativity and do not let myself be affected by it. While their tirade goes on, I think to myself ‘yeah, but this doesn’t affect me because my outlook on these things is different.’
Some negative people are just seeking a reaction from you, they feed off of people that agree with them and add to their own negativity. Try to be an observant, rather than be emotionally invested in whatever they’re talking about.
Ask yourself what you’re getting out of it
Are you getting something out of these conversations? This relationship you have with this negative person? Questioning yourself helps you change the way you respond to this person. Sometimes we keep up with negative relationships because it makes us feel needed or it gives us an excuse to gossip. To be completely free of negativity in your life, you need to limit these interactions as much as you can.
It’s often not possible to completely cut negative people out of our lives – especially if we work with them or if they’re family members. But you can change your response and the way you deal with them. This way, it’s still possible to delete as much negativity out of your life as you possibly can.